!44: Extreme Roller Coaster Sale Off: November 2011

!±8± Change Your Perspective, Embrace Your Body

Only 9% of adult women surveyed by PEOPLE magazine are completely satisfied with their bodies.

Does that statistic resonate with you? Would you like to be more satisfied with your body? This month I'm exploring how we can embrace the bodies we have by looking at our bodies from a different perspective.

It's all about perspectives. Have you ever thought: I'll be happier when I lose (#) pounds? Or, I'll feel better once my stomach is flatter? You're not alone. Take a look at how off our perspectives can be. A popular study* found that both men and women overestimate the size of their bodies. In fact, "women overestimate the size of their hips by 16% and the size of their waist by 25%, yet the same women were able to correctly guess the width of a box!" To me, this is a perception problem.

Just like people come in all shapes and sizes, so does body image. Sam, a 40-year-old man, finds himself disgusted with his looks. His well-intentioned wife suggested he'd be happier if he lost some weight. But Sam, who already focuses most of his attention on what others think of him, feels hopeless about ever feeling more positive about himself. To avoid these feelings, he stays up late numbing himself with food.

Then, there is 16-year-old Rebecca who can't stand to look at herself in the mirror. She thinks she'd be happier if only she were thinner, had trendier clothes, and a fresh hairstyle. Rebecca wants to look like the actresses on TV and models in magazines, so she starts skipping meals.

But many of us have body image issues that aren't so extreme. No matter where you fall on this continuum, over-focusing on your appearance as the path to happiness is a very narrow road to travel. Instead of picking apart your appearance, how do you begin to embrace the body you have? The answer lies in changing your perspective about your body and food in general. So how can we change our perspective?

Develop a more neutral body image: Avoid all or nothing thinking. Having differences makes you unique, not bad. People are made up of both positive and negative features, inside and out. One feature or trait isn't more powerful than the others. All of these traits make up who you are.

Recognize emotional eating: Research has found that food temporarily reduces our stress response. It may be brief, but it is enough to reinforce that high or numb feeling. Often, when people recognize that they're eating to avoid unpleasant feelings, they're able to accept or tolerate those feelings and find another way to deal with them besides using food.

Get more factual about food: Food is not a soul mate or long lost friend. Nor is food your enemy. Food is fuel for your body. If you're unsure how to pick foods for your activity level, consult a nutritionist in your area. They can offer ideas on how to spread out the fuel (calories) among the different grades of fuel (food groups).

So, if a negative body image has you down, grab the wheel from your anxiety and negative thinking. Find a more accurate perspective. And, begin enjoying who you are, both inside and out.

*Dolan, Bridget et al. (1987). "Body image distortion in non-eating disordered women and men." Journal of Psychosomatic Research, 31 (4).